SINGLE MUM OF 3...

So last february I separated from my husband, it was a mutual separation and, to the eyes of people, a weird one, because we still live under the same roof but on different floors, each has their separate bedroom and bathroom and we share the common rooms of the house, like flatmates or brother and sister. We still love each other but of that friendship love that does not lead to anything sexual, no more physical attraction is involved and safe from some bad days each of us has, no more arguments. He has a girlfriend and I am looking for...a boyfriend? I am not sure at the moment. Being a single mum of 3 I would love to have true love, a relationship and a fairytale but it's not that easy, most men are scared in normal circumstances...and these are far from it. So I tried Friends with Benefits as one night stands are not at all my cup of tea, but I end up having none of it. Men chicken out, stand me up or, like the last two, pretend we are going to be something and then change their mind. So here I am, waiting on the Gods' will to find me a mate of some sort, someone to spend my time and affection with. I know some day I will no longer be alone, in the meantime I can always dream.

Twins by surprise

As the title says it was a surprise, a big one considering not only I got to know about the twins around 21 weeks but there was no chance of this happening since there are no cases in my family or my husband's. It was in fact a big shock and it took me nearly a week to get over it.

These are a couple of pictures of my belly a couple of weeks ago and then what can be seen of my babies (last Monday). Hopefully they will not come out before Easter but any time after that will be fine.

My plans for an HWBAC (Home water birth after cesarean) went out the window of course as it's too risky for anybody in Italy to consider such a thing happening, but at least I found an awesome obstetrician which will help me with the labor at home until 4-5cm and then take me to the only hospital near us (one hour of travel more or less) where the chief of Gynecology agreed to let me have my babies naturally if no serious problem arises.

I really don't know if I will have any time to update after they are born but I really hope so.

Dreamy houses

Out of curiosity I checked some Uk properties and after looking at lots and lots of them I found 3 that were particularly beautiful to my eyes and If I had the money I would certainly buy them all =)!

The first one is a 5 bedroom semi detached house at the end of a road, near a field, so a quiet safe road for kids, in Shirebrook, Derbyshire selling for the price of £189,500 which is not bad considering it's a beautiful house in a relatively quiet location not far from Langwith-WhaleyThorns railway station and Mansfield.

(http://www.findaproperty.com/displayprop.aspx?edid=00&salerent=0&pid=6983676)

The second one is much pricier at £575,000 in New Romney, Kent. It is a 5 bedroom detached house although I would call it a mansion as it's huge! The price is higher not just because of the dimension, but because of the location, overlooking a golf course and near Folkstone, therefore it gives easy access to the Channel Tunnel. Not to mention the relatively closeness to London and Dover.

(http://www.findaproperty.com/displayprop.aspx?edid=00&salerent=0&pid=7283372)

The third one is the priciest at £1,290,000 in New Romney, Kent. It is a 6 bedroom detached house although bigger than the previous one therefore once again a mansion, same area as the previous one but with a lot more to offer.

(http://www.findaproperty.com/displayprop.aspx?edid=00&salerent=0&pid=4918458)

I enclosed the links to each poroperty so you can dream (or buy if you cxan afford it!) about these 3 beauties. Enjoy.

FORGOTTEN THINGS ABOUT MY (NOT)GIVING BIRTH - AKA C-SECTION

In progress, soon the post.

VBAC facts and statistics to use against lies

or those doctors who lie to you about the risks of uterine rupture statistics, here it is the official one from:


http://content.nejm.org/cgi/content/full/351/25/2581/T3



And for all the Vbac and Hbac infos this great website that tells it all, here you'll find everything you're looking for:

http://vbacfacts.com

Have a nice reading and be informed to fight for the natural freedom every mother should have! Information is the key to win people that lie to us for their convenience.

ABOUT MY BOY

I breastfed my boy for 2 years, 4 months and 1 week =)

Our breastfeeding ended in a very quick and painless way: one day I realized he was not swallowing milk anymore and the same day we stopped and it was never a big deal luckily.

UPDATES!

Robert in the sling for the first time, it's amazing how much he calms down when I'm using it =)

It's been a long time since my last post, I've been busy with my boy, work and lately I caught "bronco pneumonia", a stage below pneumonia. I started being ill on Easter Monday and got a bad cough and a general ill state, I was given antibiotic and bed/house rest as outside it was still quite chilly. I did so and I felt recovered since I had also finished the antibiotic. But I was obviously wrong as I started coughing again after a few days (maybe I went out with too light clothing?) and when I finally managed to go to the doctor (that lazy woman didn't come to visit me) she gave me an urgent prescription for a lungs X-ray that showed a shadow and so I'm back to bed /house rest (although now I'm allowed to go out a little since the weather is much hotter) and antibiotic (a different kind that I have to take on a full stomach and still gives me a long-lasting nausea).
My boy is now just over 10 months old, he is eating lunch and dinner and I still breastfeed him 4 times a day on this order: 1 full breast for breakfast around 8-8.30, 1 other full breast 3 hours later and then 3 hours later is lunch, then 4 hours later 1 full breast as a snack and then around 9-9.30 2 brests (not so full at night time) and dinner. He is happy, I am happy, he sleeps from 10.30pm till 8.30am and I couldn't be more satisfied. He now has 5 teeth (2 down, 3 up) and is able to walk assisted very well and does steps too. He's chewed the bed end instead of his special teeth toys and now likes to detach the dummy from his clothes and swing it around... of course this means I often have to look for it when he then wants it back.
After getting informed about vaccinations and all the risks we decided no more vaccines for him and none whatsoever for the next one we'll have in the future. I'm getting more and more adamant about home birth for the next time even if it means high risks for a lot of things. It's not impossible to have a Vaginal Birth After Caesarean (VBAC) and a Home Birth After Caesarean (HBAC) is what I want and will try and have at all costs. Information is accessible to all women nowadays and they must get informed about what is giving birth for real, it's got nothing to do with hospitals and operations, it's the most natural thing since the birth of humanity and the truth about it must be spread again. Things like giving birth naturally and breastfeeding are seen as abnormal when they are the normality. Billions of women don't know what breastfeeding is, how to do it, how to solve the problems to it related and how to recognize the lies that "the man" tell them such as "the milk went away", "you have not enough milk" or "your milk is like water and doesn't feed your baby properly". Women wake up! They are lies! You can find all the infos about breastfeeding on the net so use it! So many lies are said so that Artificial milk companies can prosper, don't allow this! As the less women breastfeed ,the less healthy a baby is likely to be and the higher the chances that women can risk getting breast cancer.
Anyway if, even after doing all the research and gather all the information about breastfeeding, you still feel that it is not for you, nobody can force you. Just know that the natural way is always the best and don't believe everything you are told by a doctor, they are people too and can make mistakes. Always research something you don't know about and you'll never have any regrets.